Winston Churchill wisely said…
“When you’re 20 you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place.”
These words have only recently begun to truly resonate with me. If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably spent a lifetime (well, in my case, 1/2 of lifetime, since I’m hoping to reach it to 90-something!) trying to…
Which has caused you to…
sweat the little things
wonder how you compare
– and –
question whether you’re good enough
Spending your energy wondering if you will measure up is a pretty terrible way to pass your days. Not only will you spin your wheels needlessly (what IS good enough?), but you’ll probably eventually exhaust yourself and end up either depressed, or, in my case, quite anxious.
Getting to the point of not caring what others think is a process that’s liberating in and of itself. Figuring out how to do it certainly might take you ’til your 40. Of course, the danger is that if you decide simply not to care, you might actually be donning the F— Y–! mantle…a cloak that probably won’t wear well, or serve you (or society) much in the long run.
Even better is to realize and appreciate that your fellow travelers on this journey of life are like you…deeply engrossed in their own thoughts, ambitions, desires and fears. And while that most likely leaves them no room to think of you, it also means that they probably aren’t wishing you any ill either. And that knowledge, my friend, is deeply liberating.
So go forward and do what you love to do. Write a poem, paint a picture, dance a little jig…do whatever it takes to celebrate being YOU. Life’s not a competition or a race. After all, we all end up at the same destination.